Accountability
Holding yourself accountable can be a challenge. Having other people hold you accountable, depending on the type of person you are can be a disaster. I am that type of person. When I ask other people to try and help me hold myself accountable, for some reason my brain says,, "Oh your telling me to do this, well I'm not going to do that then!" Maybe it came from years of me being rebellious over my parents that were lack that of.. not sure. But, regardless, it has played a big role in my struggles as an adult.
I will be honest and tell you that I have not found one solid thing that has kept me on track to be accountable, other than the fact that I don't want to be broke all the time, and I would love to do the baby steps to becoming a millionaire one day. I have been trying to follow Dave Ramseys baby steps and with my lack of control of myself it has shown to be a bit of a challenge, to say the least.
I am a mother of 4 and mothering myself has been my biggest challenge. I will not become the mother that needs mothered by her children. Some people fall into that category, but I refuse! I will learn with my children though. My kiddos are all going to be or are: 19, 15, 14, and 10 this year. What does this tell me? Well, it tells me that I am not as far as I wanted to be when they were all teens, adults and almost a teen.. I planned on having our family home, a solid legacy that I would be working on since they were babies that I would gladly pass on to then as I aged into the next step of my life. I'm not there yet.
Currently we are living in my new husbands house that will eventually become our rental (as it was before) since the house that I intended on becoming our family heirloom, has been ripped from us. Teaching me a valuable lesson, that family isn't always good. Even if they are your father. Years of hard work and dedication, blood, sweat, many tears.. gone. Starting back as square one, with a solid new foundation of a husband and strong resilient children that are my little best friends, we will overcome anything.
Building a legacy looks different for everyone. Mine has been founded on relationships, love, respect, and never giving up! My ex-husband is still a very good friend of mine, always will be. That is the best place for our relationship, as that is what we always were growing up, and now.
It's good to reflect on why you want to hold yourself accountable. This is my why.. I want to continue to build my legacy for my children, my grandchildren, and my great grandchildren for decades to come. I want our family to have a solid part in making a difference in the world. We will be creating Seasons of life business together! I want my great grandchildren to look back at their grandma and be proud that she never gave up! That turns accountability into something better than nagging to not spend, or nagging to get things done. That turns it into a purpose. This is my purpose in life.
What is yours?
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